It’s tough to maintain control of your life when you are constantly being pulled in a hundred different directions. Work, friends and family – they all want your attention…right now. Balancing everything and ensuring everyone is happy leaves no time for yourself and no time for what you want to do. That’s no way to live.
What type of life are you living when you’re merely existing to go through the empty and meaningless “motions?” You wake up, drive to the office, make money for someone else, come home, contend with any personal obligations, and repeat day in and day out. It’s a mediocre way to live, at best, and causes many to lose complete hope in the “light at the end of the tunnel.” Unfortunately, working harder and spending more time doing X, Y and Z doesn’t always pay off.
Today’s the day when you must take back control of your life. After all, it is your life. You only have one chance to live the best life possible, so make it amazing. Take chances, do what you love and, most importantly, be in charge of your own destiny.
Have you ever arrived at work without your bag, locked your keys in your car, or got into an argument with a friend or loved one over a misunderstanding? These all occur when we have a lapse in mindfulness. Fortunately, there are ways to avoid these mishaps and train ourselves to be more mindful.
Develop a Routine Checklist
If you are constantly finding yourself unprepared for your day, it’s probably because you haven’t created a mental habit to double check what you need. My mom used to say “see you in a minute” when I left the house. She’d smile when I walked back through the door, “What’d you forget?” I realized my problem was that although I had developed a mental habit of checking for what I needed, my checklist point was in my car rather than at the front door.
From a young age, we are all groomed to fall into line with our peers. Most of us don’t identify the scale of conformity in our lives until we are a bit older, but it is ever present. To be accepted in our respective societies, we must do X, Y and Z. If not, we are deemed an outsider – someone who should be avoided, ridiculed or taunted.
The fact of the matter is that social values, expectations or norms that are widely accepted are not necessarily meant for everyone. Each person is unique. Your likes and needs are completely different than the person sitting next to you. With that thought to consider, why are we still all expected to conform to a certain mold for our very individual lives?
Some of the most successful people in the past 100 years and beyond have been those who have moved against the grain, against expectations. They’ve created empires and thriving businesses out of nothing – something that was probably totally unimaginable to the large majority of other people at the time. True innovators know that one must think outside of the box in order to make progress. Yes, this may be uncomfortable for you. You may be pushed to your breaking point. But, you’ll never know if you can achieve success or happiness if you don’t try in the first place. It’s all about your ability to overcome and thrive.
Sometimes you just need that little pick me up to make your day completely better. It may not take a lot. But it makes a big difference in your outlook for that day, week or year. And that’s what matters, right?
Every now and again, we all lose perspective in our lives. We get caught up in the little things and sucked into other things that just don’t matter. We lose ourselves. We lose what we really want. That’s when you need little reminders about all of the great things in life. Because when you lose perspective, your happiness and clarity can quickly disappear with it.
Just remember that life is beautiful. It is a gift – the greatest one you’ll ever receive. This doesn’t just apply to the big things. Relish in the goodness of everything, no matter how insignificant it may appear to you right now. There are little things all around you that can easily bring you happiness.
Feeling a little down? Need a little pick me up? Check out these 7 smile inducing thoughts for everyday life:
Mornings are the perfect opportunity to take a full inventory of your life. Your mind has yet to be polluted by all of the happenings of everyday living, enabling you to have a clearer line of thought and ability to problem solve. Consistent self-reflection, especially at the beginning of a new day, organizes all of your ideas, dreams and aspirations into a coherent streamline of actions and goals.
Marcus Aurelius once said, “When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breath, to think, to enjoy, to love.” Consider this thought as you rise each day and remember to ask yourself these 10 questions:
We all struggle with it. Like it or not, focus is something pretty hard to attain.
We’re constantly surrounded by a million and one things that beg to take our attention away from the real task at hand. From Facebook to smartphones, we, frankly, live in a very unfocused world. Even as I’m writing this post, the temptation of checking the news or just popping onto Facebook for a moment continually lingers. It’s something we all have to fight with as we try to work every day.
Though it may often seem like a fruitless battle, it’s not. There are ways to increase your focus, remain disciplined and keep your eye on the prize, so to speak. You need to be dedicated to achieving focus, whether that means accomplishing a goal or getting through a specific task.
Focus can make your life so much easier. Staying focused decreases your time spent doing certain things and increases overall quality. Much like a post I recently wrote on working smarter and not harder, maintaining focus gives you back the one thing we all want – time.
This has been a reoccurring topic on this blog – the expectations that are often projected onto or forced upon us by outside sources. Expectations are merely standards, which have been created based on past life experiences. They can be your own ideals or someone else’s, helpful and inspiring or overwhelming and unrealistic. It all depends on the situation.
Expectations can push you to new heights or completely submerge you, depending on the wish, subject, person with the expectation and the person who it is being projected upon. Some expectations are helpful and open new doors for opportunities and learning, enabling you to discover who you really are. Others are detrimental and oppress your future hopes and dreams, providing no room to breath. Whatever the circumstance is, it’s always important to effectively manage all expectations so that they can be streamlined to best benefit you and your objectives.
The world is an ever-changing place, bringing the good as often as it creates the bad. This is a central factor in managing expectations since it affects your outcome. Aligning potential opportunities with the current needs of the world dictates survival in a volatile environment.
Continuously analyzing your approach is just one factor in the grand scheme of overseeing expectations. Find 5 methods to manage expectations in an uncertain world here: